Monday, 1 August 2016

TGNB Abortion Series 13: "Abortion Is A Life Saver! It Saved Me From Untold Hardship!"

"I will forever be grateful for the ability to act on my good judgment and got ruined of an unwanted pregnancy when I did. I don't know how I would have survived if I had done otherwise.

Despite what the world think about abortion, I hold no rue or guilt. On the contrary, i'm glad I got the chance to terminate mine. Keeping the pregnancy would have been the end of my education and the beginning of an untold suffering. And who likes to suffer?

When I discovered I was pregnant, I had no hesitation about terminating it. Yes, I got pregnant at a very tender age. Yes, I had a quite D&C on the fourth week. Yes, the father was in full support, in fact, we went to the clinic together and he paid for it of course. Did anyone forced me into doing it? No, I did it on my own free will. I knew I wasn't mentally and financially prepared to be a mother, and abortion was my best if not only option.

I was in 200 level at the University. I met the father a year before. We were young, carefree and sexually active. I got pregnant because I failed to keep a record of my menstrual circle. A very costly mistake. But I didn't let it wear me down or make me lose sight of my goals and ambitions in life.

I planned on getting a degree, build myself a career, meet someone special, fall in love, get married before having kids. In that order. That has always been my dreams and I couldn't let a silly mistake get in the way. Call it what you want and chastised me all you like--it was the best decision I ever made.

How could I have cope with the responsibility of catering for a child? It's not as if I am from a wealthy home, either was I carrying a rich man's grandchild. We both were leeching on our poor parents and couldn't afford to keep the baby. No regrets, children will come at the right time.
Don't get me wrong, I'd regret having unprotected sex especially at such a tender age (I was barely 19), if not for anything, but for the severe pains and sleepless nights it caused me. But I don't regret taking it out.

Some people might think it an heartless thing to do. They argue that abortion is akin to murder. They tell you to consider the risks involve (you might destroy your womb or even lose your life in the process.) Some even preach about how ungodly it is. How you may not be able to live with it and blah blah blah. But I think having that abortion when I did, was what saved me. My parents would have turned the other way and abandon me to my fate. They would have eschewed me and everything that had to do with me. I don't really known where I would have been if not of it.

I am not saying abortion is a wonderful thing to do, either am I trying to encourage anyone to opt for an abortion. In fact, I don't see myself doing it again. Once was enough! But women -- especially young unmarried ladies should be allowed to way their options and make decisions without sentiments or guilt. If you ever find yourself with an unwanted pregnancy, don't ever allow sentiment to overcrowd your sense of reasoning. Do what you know is best for you.

....Or better yet zip up or use condom!


Anonymous said...

I pray you Give birth in future.even though you do the law of karma must surely visit you in some way . because you have no symptoms of remorse for ur sinful act.why did you indulge in sex when you know you are not ready for the out come.was sex meant for unmarried or married. I just pray you pay for your un remorseful sin

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